what is Black?
Is it a color?
Is it a race ?
Is it the color of dirt ?
Is it the chocolate cake I just ate ?
Or is it what people hate.
For Black can be what ever you make it.
For me Black is Beutiful and will always be
No matter what people say.
Monday, July 30, 2007
Domestic Violence
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and for People who go through it
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Domestic violence is a problem that many people go through, no matter the color of your skin, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Domestic violence is the abuse that a person does to there intimate partner (including husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives,) for control in the relationship. Domestic violence includes of physical, sexual, emotional, and economic abuse. According to the American Psychiatric Association,"5.3 million partner victimizations occur each year among U.S. women ages 18 and older, resulting in two million injuries and 1,300 deaths. Nearly 25 percent of women have been raped and/ or been sexual assaulted by an intimate partner during there lives.15.4 percent of gay men, 11.4 percent of lesbians and 7.7 percent of heterosexual men, are assaulted by a date or intimate partner during their lives. And more than 1 million women and 371,000 men are stalked by partners each year."
As a result I feel this topic should be addressed to people of all ages and all background to stop this abusive behavior and to prevent it from ever happening or from continuing to happen
My Life Experiences
I’ve heard and read many stories about domestic violence in relationships, from the news to books but I would have never guessed it would be so close to home. I found out when I was about eleven (I’m
Fourteen now) that my grandma had been emotional abused. If you saw her almost every weekend like I did, you would have never guessed what she was really going through. Every time I saw her she always looked so happy and radiant but now I know behind closed doors it was hell. The first sign I received that she was emotionally abused was almost every time I went out with her, her boyfriend would call and keep track of where she was, like he was the boss of her. Another sign was when I was over her house; she was having a really bad argument with her boyfriend on the phone, he was cursing and everything at her. It was so bad; I started to get a headache. Finally, she hung the phone up and went to her room; I could tell she was crying. Another time, she spent the night over our house because she had a really bad fight with him. My grandma has been through a lot of drama with him and fights, but still says she loves him and still continues to stay with him. I believe that she should not have to go through all of this pain and hurt. I believe what she is going through is not love, and she deserves better, someone who respects her and treats her like a queen. Even though she is still with him, I hope that many people who are in this situation, will have the strength, courage and determination to find someway to leave the person who is hurting them to truly be free from the shadow of violent, sexual, emotional, and economic abuse.
A Poem: By me
BEHIND (THE VICTIM OF ABUSE)
Behind
You make me so mad; I wish I could just leave
, But I can't that’s why I'm mad, if I could, I would, but I can't
You know why because my love for you is too strong and deep.
Love is a powerful thing, it makes you do things you end up regretting,
Especially for me, you hit me and say you love me; you hit me again and say those same 7 words:
I DID IT BECAUSE I LOVE YOU
What is that suppose to mean?
HIT+ abuse = Love
I'm I in a dream?
Is this real?
You know what a hit feels like in real life? A punch, kick, and scratch
It hurts like hell
For I'm behind the burns, scratches, and bruises that you give me everyday I've been with you
For I'm behind the sadness and anger you make me have
For I stay and you beat
For I love you and don't know why
FOR I"M BEHIND
_ By: BRIONNA MICHELLE ECHOLS (ME)
Down below is some information, showing you how likely you are to be in abusive relationship, how very likely you are in being in an abusive relationship, and how you being in an abusive relationship, can affect your children.
You are likely to be in an abusive Relationship if your partner:
1. Makes you ask for money (even if it’s your paycheck
2. Facial expressions scares you
3. Accuses you of being unfaithful; acts jealous
4. Controls your everyday life; clothing, where you go, whom you communicate with.
5. Make decisions for you and tells you to get permission from them
To do everyday decisions
6. Threatens to kill oneself
You are very likely to be in an abusive relationship if you partner:
1. Touches you violently (kick, slap, punch, shoves or even chokes you)
2. Forces you to engage in sexual intercourse or makes you perform sexual act
3. Calls you really insulting names
4. Prevents you from seeing family members and friends
5. Stops you from doing anything work related (seeing co-workers, going to work or school.)
6. Denies being abusive, even though he was
7. Hurts and threatens your family (pet, children, etc.)
8. Says it's your fault for there abusive behavior and say's you deserved it
How Domestic Violence can affect your children
1. It can mess them up mentally
2. It can get them in the mind set that, that’s how they should be treated
3. They may grow up just like the abuser
4. They could become emotionally abuse
5. They could become sexual abuse
6. They could become physically abuse
Domestic Violence is no joke and should be taking very seriously and with caution to protect you and your family. When in an abusive relationship, you have to find any kind of way or source to get out of this relationship. I know it will be hard and complicated but you have to try or the consequences could be tragic or even deadly. If you have children think of how this violence is affecting them.
If you are being abused, you should
o Call the police or a emergency number
o Talk to someone your close to or trust
o Tell a doctor or a certified medical person
Resources by the American Psychiatric Association
American Psychiatric Association (APA)
1000 Wilson Blvd. Suite 1825
Arlington, VA 22209
703-907-7300
http://www.heathyminds.org/
National Domestic Violence
Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)
Or 800-787-3224(TTY)
http://www.ndvh.org/
National Coalition against Domestic Violence
303-839-1852
http://www.ncadv.org/
National Network to end Domestic Violence
202-543-5566
http://www.nnedv.org/
Resources: I used were: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/domestic%20violence.html
And
http://www.healthyminds.org/
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Domestic violence is a problem that many people go through, no matter the color of your skin, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Domestic violence is the abuse that a person does to there intimate partner (including husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives,) for control in the relationship. Domestic violence includes of physical, sexual, emotional, and economic abuse. According to the American Psychiatric Association,"5.3 million partner victimizations occur each year among U.S. women ages 18 and older, resulting in two million injuries and 1,300 deaths. Nearly 25 percent of women have been raped and/ or been sexual assaulted by an intimate partner during there lives.15.4 percent of gay men, 11.4 percent of lesbians and 7.7 percent of heterosexual men, are assaulted by a date or intimate partner during their lives. And more than 1 million women and 371,000 men are stalked by partners each year."
As a result I feel this topic should be addressed to people of all ages and all background to stop this abusive behavior and to prevent it from ever happening or from continuing to happen
My Life Experiences
I’ve heard and read many stories about domestic violence in relationships, from the news to books but I would have never guessed it would be so close to home. I found out when I was about eleven (I’m
Fourteen now) that my grandma had been emotional abused. If you saw her almost every weekend like I did, you would have never guessed what she was really going through. Every time I saw her she always looked so happy and radiant but now I know behind closed doors it was hell. The first sign I received that she was emotionally abused was almost every time I went out with her, her boyfriend would call and keep track of where she was, like he was the boss of her. Another sign was when I was over her house; she was having a really bad argument with her boyfriend on the phone, he was cursing and everything at her. It was so bad; I started to get a headache. Finally, she hung the phone up and went to her room; I could tell she was crying. Another time, she spent the night over our house because she had a really bad fight with him. My grandma has been through a lot of drama with him and fights, but still says she loves him and still continues to stay with him. I believe that she should not have to go through all of this pain and hurt. I believe what she is going through is not love, and she deserves better, someone who respects her and treats her like a queen. Even though she is still with him, I hope that many people who are in this situation, will have the strength, courage and determination to find someway to leave the person who is hurting them to truly be free from the shadow of violent, sexual, emotional, and economic abuse.
A Poem: By me
BEHIND (THE VICTIM OF ABUSE)
Behind
You make me so mad; I wish I could just leave
, But I can't that’s why I'm mad, if I could, I would, but I can't
You know why because my love for you is too strong and deep.
Love is a powerful thing, it makes you do things you end up regretting,
Especially for me, you hit me and say you love me; you hit me again and say those same 7 words:
I DID IT BECAUSE I LOVE YOU
What is that suppose to mean?
HIT+ abuse = Love
I'm I in a dream?
Is this real?
You know what a hit feels like in real life? A punch, kick, and scratch
It hurts like hell
For I'm behind the burns, scratches, and bruises that you give me everyday I've been with you
For I'm behind the sadness and anger you make me have
For I stay and you beat
For I love you and don't know why
FOR I"M BEHIND
_ By: BRIONNA MICHELLE ECHOLS (ME)
Down below is some information, showing you how likely you are to be in abusive relationship, how very likely you are in being in an abusive relationship, and how you being in an abusive relationship, can affect your children.
You are likely to be in an abusive Relationship if your partner:
1. Makes you ask for money (even if it’s your paycheck
2. Facial expressions scares you
3. Accuses you of being unfaithful; acts jealous
4. Controls your everyday life; clothing, where you go, whom you communicate with.
5. Make decisions for you and tells you to get permission from them
To do everyday decisions
6. Threatens to kill oneself
You are very likely to be in an abusive relationship if you partner:
1. Touches you violently (kick, slap, punch, shoves or even chokes you)
2. Forces you to engage in sexual intercourse or makes you perform sexual act
3. Calls you really insulting names
4. Prevents you from seeing family members and friends
5. Stops you from doing anything work related (seeing co-workers, going to work or school.)
6. Denies being abusive, even though he was
7. Hurts and threatens your family (pet, children, etc.)
8. Says it's your fault for there abusive behavior and say's you deserved it
How Domestic Violence can affect your children
1. It can mess them up mentally
2. It can get them in the mind set that, that’s how they should be treated
3. They may grow up just like the abuser
4. They could become emotionally abuse
5. They could become sexual abuse
6. They could become physically abuse
Domestic Violence is no joke and should be taking very seriously and with caution to protect you and your family. When in an abusive relationship, you have to find any kind of way or source to get out of this relationship. I know it will be hard and complicated but you have to try or the consequences could be tragic or even deadly. If you have children think of how this violence is affecting them.
If you are being abused, you should
o Call the police or a emergency number
o Talk to someone your close to or trust
o Tell a doctor or a certified medical person
Resources by the American Psychiatric Association
American Psychiatric Association (APA)
1000 Wilson Blvd. Suite 1825
Arlington, VA 22209
703-907-7300
http://www.heathyminds.org/
National Domestic Violence
Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)
Or 800-787-3224(TTY)
http://www.ndvh.org/
National Coalition against Domestic Violence
303-839-1852
http://www.ncadv.org/
National Network to end Domestic Violence
202-543-5566
http://www.nnedv.org/
Resources: I used were: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/domestic%20violence.html
And
http://www.healthyminds.org/
Friday, July 27, 2007
My Letter to The Governor
July 24, 2007
Governor Jennifer M. Granholm,P.O. Box 30013,Lansing, Michigan 48909
Dear Governor Granholm:
I’m writing to you to ask for your help to make domestic violence a stricter law. I believe in helping people from all different situations, from feeding the homeless to trying to save a child from abuse. I try to help people in any way I can, so our society can become a better place to live in and to show people what love is.
My mission right now is to help people enduing domestic violence situations, so they can have the life they deserve, which is the pursuit of happiness and the right to enjoy life. I don’t believe anyone should be entitled to have pain and hurt in their lives. Especially from the ones that are suppose to show them the most love and respect.
Family is supposed to give you the strength, when no one else does. Family should encourage you, when no one else believes in you. Family is supposed to make you happy when you’re feeling down. Family is not supposed to abuse you, but today in our society they do.
Did you know according to the American Psychiatric Association that “5.3 million people are victimized by domestic violence each year and in Michigan there were 54,248 reported victims of domestic violence and 30 reported murdered?” I believe this issue should be taken more seriously and there should be a bigger penalty for those who commit it.
In Conclusion, I want to make domestic violence a stricter law in Michigan first and maybe the rest of the other states will follow our example. I’m asking you for your help because I believe you are the only one who can help me to get this law up and running.What I mean by making domestic violence a stricter law is making the person committing this tragic crime spend longer time behind bars then today’s law. I hope you read this letter and make domestic violence a stricter law and I want to thank you for you time.
Governor Jennifer M. Granholm,P.O. Box 30013,Lansing, Michigan 48909
Dear Governor Granholm:
I’m writing to you to ask for your help to make domestic violence a stricter law. I believe in helping people from all different situations, from feeding the homeless to trying to save a child from abuse. I try to help people in any way I can, so our society can become a better place to live in and to show people what love is.
My mission right now is to help people enduing domestic violence situations, so they can have the life they deserve, which is the pursuit of happiness and the right to enjoy life. I don’t believe anyone should be entitled to have pain and hurt in their lives. Especially from the ones that are suppose to show them the most love and respect.
Family is supposed to give you the strength, when no one else does. Family should encourage you, when no one else believes in you. Family is supposed to make you happy when you’re feeling down. Family is not supposed to abuse you, but today in our society they do.
Did you know according to the American Psychiatric Association that “5.3 million people are victimized by domestic violence each year and in Michigan there were 54,248 reported victims of domestic violence and 30 reported murdered?” I believe this issue should be taken more seriously and there should be a bigger penalty for those who commit it.
In Conclusion, I want to make domestic violence a stricter law in Michigan first and maybe the rest of the other states will follow our example. I’m asking you for your help because I believe you are the only one who can help me to get this law up and running.What I mean by making domestic violence a stricter law is making the person committing this tragic crime spend longer time behind bars then today’s law. I hope you read this letter and make domestic violence a stricter law and I want to thank you for you time.
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
I ain't gonna let know men walk over me
Love is like honey, life is sweet , I ain't gonna let no man walk over me.
You may be fine, you may be cool , but, once you stat disrespecting me ,I ain't gonna be no fool.
Love is like honey , life is sweet,I ain't gonna let no man walk over me.
You may be fine, you may be cool , but, once you stat disrespecting me ,I ain't gonna be no fool.
Love is like honey , life is sweet,I ain't gonna let no man walk over me.
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